How to Keep a Man Interested and Wanting You More
Filling out and submitting an online dating application is the first step to finding a man who is a keeper and will make you happy every day.
However, with dating, it’s not always about how to find someone but rather how to play a guy to keep him genuinely interested and wanting to get to know you better and stay by your side.
Today, we are sharing proven tricks and strategies on how to make a guy addicted to you. Helping women out, one article at a time!
How to Keep a Man Interested
Attraction and interest are complex. Humans don’t just get attracted to anyone and everyone, and equally, they don’t find every person they date interesting enough to keep on seeing them.
So what goes into this mysterious male interest that you can work on?
#1 Build Emotional and Physical Connection
Attraction is not only physical or emotional, it’s both. If you want to make yourself irresistible to the man, you need to find a balance between both types of connections and work on making them stronger.
- Communicate openly
- Be positive and encouraging
- Focus on quality time together
- Use different love languages
- Open up to him about important stuff
- Encourage him to be vulnerable with you
- Prioritize intimacy
#2 Keep the Excitement Alive
Once the initial connection is secured on the emotional and physical levels, it is time to switch the focus on keeping things exciting.
A spark in the relationship is not something that’s guaranteed. In fact, it often takes effort and intention to keep the passion, desire, and curiosity on the levels that they were when you just met.
But if you notice your couple turning somewhat colder, this is not a reason to worry or panic.
It’s natural for us to get used to things, including romantic relationships. Luckily, there are ways to turn this dynamic around.
Here are a few ideas to get you inspired.
- Plan spontaneous trips
- Go on dates to new parts of the city
- Try new hobbies together
- Send flirty texts
- Plan your future as a couple
- Explore new positions in bed
- Spend more time apart
#3 Stay Mysterious and Unpredictable
Think of the people who fascinate you the most. Usually, those are the men and women who are busy with different projects and hobbies, people who have their own thing going on, and people who don’t just tell you everything upfront, but rather you can see that there’s more to them than they’re showing.
What does it mean for you? First of all, stop dumping all the information about yourself on first dates. Instead, be strategic with things you share and open up gradually. This is also good for your security when you’re dating online and talking to many strangers.
Next, make your life more interesting. Stop spending every evening at home, no matter how much you crave a simple chill night in. Sure, let yourself rest and reset, but don’t turn into a 24/7/365 couch potato.
- Call those friends you’ve been meaning to catch up with.
- Go to a masterclass or sign up for a course.
- Go through the list of books you’ve had since before Covid.
- Have a fresh look at your New Year’s resolutions and dedicate more time to them.
- Go on walks more or sign up for classes where you can move your body.
An amazing side bonus to this would be that your life will be more versatile and you’ll probably end up much happier than you were pre-changes.
How to Keep a Man Wanting You More
Now, maybe the level of spark in your relationship is decent, and you know he likes you a lot, but that doesn’t seem to be enough. What do you do then?
#1 Maintain your separate lives while staying together
So many couples blur the lines between their personalities and turn into one big human. They spend all their time together, watch the same shows, and hang out with the same group of friends.
There’s nothing wrong with it per se, but it’s not super healthy either. First of all, you can slowly begin to forget who you are and what you want from life and rely on your partner to make those decisions. Secondly, neither of you gets excited about the partner and hearing what their day was like anymore. Hanging out becomes boring and predictable, and you start to dream about being somewhere else.
Maintaining a healthy balance between dating and still having your own things going on will keep things exciting in the bedroom, and they’ll make the man more curious about you.
#2 Prioritize Yourself and Your Goals
Happy relationship or not, a woman must never forget herself and her vision.
Always keep on working on your goals, whatever they might be. Leave room in your schedule to deal with important stuff, and then plan your dating life around it, not vice versa.
Not only do men appreciate determined and independent women, but you’ll also be progressing with your life and not relying on a single guy to make you feel happy and fulfilled.
#3 Work on Your Confidence
It’s not easy and usually not pleasant to work on your insecurities and try to become a better person. However, if you don’t do it, you won’t be able to elevate your life (with a man or without).
Discuss it with your therapist or talk to friends, and come up with small steps that will allow you to leave negative thoughts and habits in the past. Pay attention to what’s causing you to feel anxious and either avoid those situations or acknowledge them as they happen and create a plan to deal with them.
#4 Understand Your Personalities
If you want to make someone want you more, it makes sense to understand what they actually like, hate, prefer, and are afraid of.
Take a quick and smart personality test to get insights that you’ll be able to use to strengthen your partnership moving forward. Surely we don’t recommend changing your personality or how you act for another person, no matter how much you like them, but this knowledge will help you understand your man’s behavioral patterns and react to them better. For the sake of both of you.
#5 Make Him Feel Valued and Desired
If you genuinely like and appreciate him – let him know!
Men and women alike love to feel needed, wanted, and valued. Give him compliments, ask for his input on important choices you’re about to make, and ask for help in other cases too.
Tell him how sexy he is more often, initiate sex more without being afraid to make the first move, and bring up your bedroom fantasies and things you’d like to try. Give him thoughtful gifts and make gestures that will show him that you care.
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How to Keep a Guy Interested Sexually
Keeping a guy interested in one thing, but keeping him sexually interested is a whole different topic.
First and foremost, you need to feel comfortable in your own body for others to get crazy about you.
- Ignore the trends, the fad diets, and any unrealistic bodies you come across on the internet.
- Work on your inner confidence. Explore what makes you a unique person and what your core strengths are, and see how you can further advance there.
- Create a healthy routine for yourself. You can’t be confident when you feel bad. Start prioritizing sleep, exercise to become more lean and toned up, and get the extra energy to achieve everything you want.
- Learn new languages, take courses, and volunteer for new projects at work. Do the things that will help you gain knowledge and become a more sought-after individual and professional.
At the same time, keep things exciting and arousing by:
- Sharing sexy fantasies and implementing them into your bedtime routines.
- Initiating sex regularly, so there is a balance and the guy doesn’t feel like he’s pressuring you into intimacy all the time.
- Experimenting with positions and locations to give familiar sex a fresh experience.
- Starting long before you have sex, for example, flirting profusely and making cheeky remarks throughout the day.
How to Make a Guy Addicted to You
Having someone want you so much that it feels like addiction is great. Your self-esteem is through the roof, and you feel loved and cared for at all times. There are many men out there who will be absolutely happy to surround you with this kind of attention and become a great partner for you.
Before we dive into the tips and tricks of making a man crazy about you like that, it’s important to point out that you shouldn’t try too hard to make him addicted to you. After all, he needs to be able to see what kind of a gem you are without it being shoved down his throat. If he’s unable to appreciate you and realize what kind of fairy princess is in front of him, it’s his loss. Never become desperate.
Now that this disclaimer is out of the way, let’s move on to actual tips that will make it easier for him to see how truly special you are and how much he needs to appreciate you.
- Be authentic no matter what. Trying to be someone else will eventually backfire and will make you look bad.
- Focus on being understanding and supportive. Don’t silently agree with him if he’s being manipulative or tries tricks on you, but be on his side and encourage him when he’s working on something, trying to get better, or is simply anxious.
- Balance serious talks with fun and goofiness. Even if you’re interested in building a strong and serious long-term relationship, it’s important to maintain some level of playful and silly time you spend together. Otherwise seeing you will feel like a chore.
- Become a team. You guys are on the same page, and you shouldn’t be working against each other. Solve problems with compassion and do your best to really hear each other’s side of the argument.
How to Play a Guy the Right Way
Last but not least, let’s end this article on a high by uncovering some tricks to playing guys the right way, i.e., effectively and in a non-toxic way.
- Withhold parts of information to keep the mystery going for longer.
- Set clear boundaries and punish him for disrespecting them.
- Spend just as much time alone or with friends and family as you do with him.
- Don’t always be available to hang out whenever he texts you.
- Show that you’re interested, but let him do all the work.
Finally, balance playfulness with authentic interest. A little bit of teasing won’t hurt, but you also need to hint that you actually like him to keep him going.
Be surprising. Bring up new ideas, suggest new experiences, offer a fresh perspective on things he’s used to.
But most importantly – keep yourself happy, have your basic needs covered, and do the things that interest you. That’s the best way to become an energetic and enigmatic person that nobody will be able to resist.
